I’m A Fucking Vampire

I’m a fucking Vampire,  not in the thirst for human blood, but in the way, I’ve been going to sleep late and I keep waking up two hours into my sleep. What does that mean? I woke up, texted a friend back, who was surprising awake too, then I closed my eyes waiting to sleep. Eventually, I did fall asleep only to wake up early for my genre workshop morning class, which I was late for.

With my luck, people filming a promotional video for my MFA program came in and filmed us workshopping my chapter. My LUCK! I tried to act as natural as I could, but seriously? I probably looked awkward as fuck, but whatever what can I do now? I guess we’ll have to wait until the video comes out… hell ya I’ll send you guys a link to it! HAHA

There could be many factors to why I fucked up my sleeping schedule for example:

my MFA program low-residency week, Rebelution Concert,  staying up contemplating my life, over-analyzing things that don’t matter, just not wanting to go to sleep.

Wait I just realized that I’m not a vampire I’m actually a Zombie. Right isn’t that what they say when you’re tired? Wow I gotta go sleep….

-KIKI REYES

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Also try this the superfood salad at The Honey B at Antioch University

 

 

Are You There? It’s Me Kiki

Hi, friends, fans, and stalkers,

I took a couple of months off from writing, particularly blogging. I had to take the time to evolve as a human being and a writer, mostly human being. The person who posted six months ago is not the same as the one writing this post right now. In fact, I’m officially a graduate student (youngest one in my cohort) and new front desk receptionist of my university. I also gained a whole new perspective on life and it’s pretty damn optimistic.

You guys are probably excited to hear my two-sense on things and my awkward daily encounters with people. You would think at 22 I would get how to be an adult. I think it should come with a manual.

Also, I miss my readers. Sorry for going “ghost” like the kids say nowadays.

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How Do You Know When A Friendship Is Over?

  1. You stop making plans to see each other.
  2. You stop communicating on the daily, including texting each other stupid memes.
  3. You stop getting replies from texts you would send to them.
  4. You have the urge to say something to them, but end up telling someone else.
  5. You begin hanging out with other people.
  6. You remember something that reminds you of them, but keep it to yourself.
  7. You accidently find a picture of them and delete it to make more room for storage on your phone.
  8. You stop listening to the music that they showed you.
  9. You start feeling guilty that you don’t care anymore.
  10. You contemplate on whether to delete them on Snapchat and Instagram because it’s too painful to see what they’re doing. It’s also painful to see a familiar stranger on the screen.
  11. You want to delete their number, but decide not to because then it’s really over.

-KIKI REYES

To Stand Out or Stand In, That Is The Question!

I haven’t worn makeup since Halloween-I know I wrote in my N.M.N “rules” that I am allowed to wear on special occasions, but I really wanted to be committed to this. So I didn’t wear makeup to a friend’s birthday dinner, out shopping on the weekends, while teaching, at my elderly friends’ Thanksgiving dinner party,  and at the gym (I wouldn’t dare even if I wasn’t doing NMN). They say it takes 27 days to form a habit, However, at 23 days I feel like this is a part of my daily routine. It used to take me maybe 2 hours to get ready and now I’m out the door in 30 minutes.

What I’ve learn, so far is society blinds us with superficiality, in order to hide us from our truths and make a profit out of our misery. Think about it; We spend so much time hating ourselves, which results in finding ways to “fix” our “imaginary flaws.” So we fix our “flaws” and begin to resemble everyone else. Why are we afraid to look our own unique way? Right now the standard of beauty is to have perfectly shaped eye-brows,  lip fillers, plastic asses, and long hair extensions that should be used for cancer patients who actually need them.

Makeup was use to highlight our beautiful features, eyes, beauty marks, etc., not to bury ourselves in it. So after NMN is done, I want to make sure I’m not hiding behind my makeup, I want to highlight my uniqueness and stand out.

-KIKI REYES

First Week of N.M.N: Why Am I Doing This Again?

The children at my work kept asking me why I wasn’t wearing makeup, which I responded to “I’m doing No Makeup November to show people you don’t need to wear makeup to feel pretty.” Great answer, but these past seven days I kept asking myself why am I doing this? I asked this especially when I walked into a work meeting and saw an attractive guy sitting across from me.

Last week I thought the reason I’m doing this was to rebuild confidence, but now I’m doing this in regards to people battling body dysmorphia. What exactly is body dysmorphia? According to the Anxiety and Depression Disorder Association, it can be defined as “A mental illness involving obsessive, focus on a perceived flaw in appearance”( https://www.adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/related-illnesses/other-related-conditions/body-dysmorphic-disorder-bdd). This illness develops at a young age and eventually morphs into eating disorders. Being barefaced during November helps you celebrate your imperfections, only to realize you’re perfectly imperfect.

I am currently writing exactly a week into November, and I’m not going to lie this is harder than I anticipated. Day four was the most difficult day because I had the urge to cover my face. There was something about looking at myself in the mirror and not feeling confident because of how I looked that day. Maybe it was the visible bags under my eyes and acne on my face that caused me to feel insecure, but I haven’t felt that low in a while. Having a bare face shouldn’t make you feel vulnerable; however, societal beauty standards have caused us to feel this way. We must practice to love ourselves for the way we are. This practice begins with who we idolize.

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One week completed

 

So who do you idolize? Please don’t say Kylie Jenner. Everyone looks like her these days. Where has our originality gone?

Again, I am not anti-makeup. As an avid makeup consumer, I believe that we shouldn’t be “caking” on makeup when we feel insecure. Or wearing five different kinds of foundation to have an entirely different shade that is so far from your natural skin color in order to appear flawless.

Well, I’ll keep you updated

-KIKI

P.S on a different note PLEASE GO OUT AND VOTE!

No Makeup November

I started wearing makeup my freshman year of college, not counting special occasions. I’ve spent massive amounts of money on makeup since then.

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My own Makeup Stash…

I still think my purchases on cosmetics are worth it; they have led to many great memories. For example, when I bought my first red lip stain and began wearing it consistently during my sophomore of college. This was before Taylor Swift decided red lips were her trademark for her “Red” album.

 

I can rely on makeup to help me look less tired and appear older, but I have started to depend on it like its apart of my personality. It’s not entirely a bad thing. I am known for my pink and brown eyeshadows, thick eyeliner with a subtle wing, rosewood lipstick, but I’m getting exhausted having to take the time to look a certain way. I’m sure most of my friends who are reading this haven’t noticed the details of what I wear, but I’m okay with that.

Well, I decided I need a break from makeup to remind myself of who I am underneath it. I have discovered when I’m feeling the most insecure is when I “cake” it on. So I decided to do “No Makeup November.”This is not going to be easy, but I feel like it is necessary. I also want my students to understand the importance of natural beauty.

I  came up with some rules of “No Makeup November” occasions for whoever wants to join me:

  1. Begins November 1st-ends 30th
  2. Cannot wear any form of makeup on typical days-nights
  3. Keep a journal and write about how it makes you feel daily
  4. Expectations:
    1. Special Occasions: can only wear makeup that looks natural.
    2. This is only okay during events, such as weddings, special outings, dates.

“No Makeup November” is not something I created (I only created my rules for it). It is linked to Ending Sex Slavery (http://nomakeupnovember.org/) and a Chrisitan Organization called Rave Miniseries (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/21/no-makeup-november-christian-movement_n_4316414.html).

I also want to add that I’m not anti-makeup at all, I’m just in it for the learning experience.

-KIKI

Hypersexualized and Racially Offensive Costumes are Expectional

Dressing up for Halloween confines me, a woman, into one exceptional standard, hypersexualized. For a nerd like myself, I don’t feel comfortable displaying too much. It is indeed ironic coming from the generation that brought back crop tops-a small shirt that exposes stomach midsection, best worn with high-waisted shorts. It’s easier for you to say, wear a costume that isn’t too hypersexualized, but it doesn’t feel too great having guys give attention to those who do follow that standard. Unfortunately, we live in a society where sex sells; however looks can be deceiving. Makeup can make anyone appear like a model and costumes can create illusions as well. The concept of women dressing like this is deeper than Halloween costumes. How others see it “why not dress up like someone I’m not. It’s just one night.” Touche.

Something else that brings up concern is dressing up as an ethnicity, such as a Mexican Mariachi, Native American, Flamenco dancer, Day of the Dead, and more. These are not costumes. These are cultures that are misunderstood by American Society. I’m hundred percent certain those wearing Native American costumes are not aware of the Dakota Access Pipeline. They are more concern with how their costume looks on them than the issue with the Standing Rock Reservation (http://www.cnn.com/2016/10/31/us/standing-rock-facebook-check-ins/index.html).

Some may argue that its “not a big deal, it’s just Halloween.”

My advice (it’s probably too late for this, but remember it for next year) is to wear whatever you feel comfortable wearing, but don’t offend an ethnic group , especially if there’s many of them residing in your neighborhood.

I also want to inform you guys that I am not a feminist. I do have feminist ideals, with regards to body image and equal pay. I have my reasons and will explain in another future post.

-KIKI halloween-costumes